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Are You Even Old Enough?!

8 Aug

Age is a funny thing. When we’re young we want to feel more grown up. As we get older we remember times when we had less responsibility, needed less sleep, could eat whatever we wanted to. The grass is always greener as they say.

One thing that hasn’t changed since I’ve entered adult life is the frequent comment about how young I look.

There are times in life when that really isn’t so bad. Getting ID’d at the liquor store can feel like a compliment. Looking young while attending a Taylor Swift concert diminishes the “why is she here without kids” stares I might otherwise get.

But generally speaking, being told you look young also comes with a judgemental stare that is trying to decipher if you are young and therefore perhaps not qualified, not mature enough, not capable enough.

This morning I watched TV as two co-hosts bantered back and forth about the year a particular event took place. The male co-host time and time again called out his counterpart for being SOOOOO young.

It’s been sitting with me all day because the tone and judgement in his voice had her on the defence even if it seemed playful on the surface.

At the end of the day they were doing the exact same job at the exact same time. Shouldn’t it stand to reason that despite their age difference, they both earned their seat at that table? Why does her age discredit her ability to perform at the highest of levels?

Yes there is something to be said for experience, but age and experience don’t always go hand in hand.

Recently I had an experience where my age (or seeming lack there of) landed me on the defence. My Husband and I just bought a house. We were doing a visit before our new home was about to close and one of the neighbours came over sizing up the new residents of her street. After looking me up and down she said to me “are you even old enough to buy a house?!”

In that moment I wish all I had said was yes. Yes I am. But because I felt so small, I felt the need to tell her my age, explain how hard we had both worked, and that this wasn’t actually the first home we’ve owned.

WHY?! I am a strong, experienced, smart and capable person. Have I been on the planet as long as some others? No! Are there people alive on Earth younger than me?! Heck yes.

So rather than taking shots at those who may seem too young to be doing what they’re doing in life, can’t we instead lift them up and give them mad props for working relentlessly to achieving the things that are important to them?

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